Friday, June 17, 2011

Reverse roles

Ladies! Is it me or does it seem like our roles as women has reversed? What i mean by that is we don't just carry on the role as women but we also carry on the role of men. Why is that? Now i'm not speaking about single mothers or single women who live alone because in that situation we have to be the woman and the man of the house. Meaning we have to tend to our children, take care of our homes and be the provider. I'm talking about when we are in relationships or marriage. I have noticed that many of us are taking on the role of men and not allowing a man to be a man. I've experienced it myself and i see it in so many others. For example,
  1. for women who have their own places, why does the man have to move in with us? now i understand if you have your own and he has his own and when you come together in marriage you may choose your place because of maybe size and family, but after awhile he should be finding a place for his new family. but other than that why do we allow the man to move into our homes? (2 Timothy 3 verses 1-7)
  2. why are we working and trying to pay the bills while the man is at home chillin or "keeping the children", hanging with his homeboys or riding around in "your" vehicle wasting your gas and you be the one to fill it back up? why is he not working whether he make more or less than you and being the provider? (1 Timothy 5 verse 8)
  3. if the man is working, why are you struggling to pay the bills and take care of the children while he spends his money on whatever he pleases and give to you what he wants you to have?
  4. why do we continue to sleep with them, give our beautiful precious bodies to them when they have not put a ring on it, paid the price for us or realize what we are worth? (Matthew 7 verse 6)
You know i am telling the truth. I know that i am not the only one who has experienced this or know somebody else who is going through the same. I am not saying that all homes or men are like this, but we see a lot of these "reversed roles" in society today. And we wonder why so many homes are in chaos,Why so many women are tired, stressed and depressed, why there are so many abusive, violent, domestic relationships and why so many men are lazy. Not only because of wives or girlfriends, but because of mothers too.

Do you not feel like the roles have reversed? Do you not feel like we are not allowing men to men? The bible say for us to be help meets not the provider. If we can get our own (homes, cars, jobs, careers, education) why can't he? "Women we should be contributors,but allow the man to fulfill his role,too" (TD Jakes, The Lady, Her Lover and Her Lord)
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  1. cynterria.lashaeJune 26, 2011 at 12:06 PM

    I think you were being very real. A lot of the time this goes on with many women because of the fact we always try our hardest to make a man happy to fulfill their needs...but what does a man do for us? They may take us out on a few nice dates when we first start dating, but after a while the dates decrease, the gifts deccrease, and we find ourselves trying harder to do things for them because we are misssing the care and love they was once giving us and hoping by showing them more love we recieve more love. However in the end the man becomes more dependent on the woman thinking it's the woman's job to wash their clothes, to cook their meals, and to give them what they want, but they also want the woman to keep their job and pay the bills, take the kids to school every morning, and stay home with the children on the weekend while they're out "hanging with the boys".He's been home all week however their are dishes in the sink, the bathroom needs to be cleaned, and not to mention children toys are all over the living room. Now you're at home thinking years ago when he use to take you out on the weekend. Now he's out and you're stuck home being his everything...thinking "where did my man go and how'd I end up with this grown up acting like a teenager?"

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